Homili Sri Paus

MENJADi MANUSIA YANG BAHAGIA

Alihbahasa oleh Rm. Ignatius Ismartono, SJ

"Engkau mungkin memiliki kekurangan, merasa gelisah dan kadangkala hidup tak tenteram, namun jangan lupa hidupmu adalah sebuah proyek terbesar di dunia ini. Hanya engkau yg sanggup menjaga agar tidak merosot. Ada banyak org membutuhkanmu, mengagumimu dan mencintaimu.

Aku ingin mengingatkanmu bahwa menjadi bahagia bukan berarti memiliki langit tanpa badai, atau jalan tanpa musibah, atau bekerja tanpa merasa letih, ataupun hubungan tanpa kekecewaan.

Menjadi bahagia adalah mencari kekuatan utk memaafkan, mencari harapan dlm perjuangan, mencari rasa aman di saat ketakutan, mencari kasih di saat perselisihan.

Menjadi bahagia bukan hanya menyimpan senyum, tetapi juga mengolah kesedihan.

Bukan hanya mengenang kejayaan, melainkan juga belajar dari kegagalan.

Bukan hanya bergembira karena menerima tepuk tangan meriah, tetapi juga bergembira meskipun tak ternama.

Menjadi bahagia adalah mengakui bhw hidup ini berharga, meskipun banyak tantangan, salah paham dan saat-saat krisis.

Menjadi bahagia bukanlah sebuah takdir, yg tak terelakkan, melainkan sebuah kemenangan bagi mereka yg mampu menyongsongnya dgn menjadi diri sendiri.

Menjadi bahagia berarti berhenti memandang diri sebagai korban dr berbagai masalah, melainkan menjadi pelaku dalam sejarah itu sendiri.

Bukan hanya menyeberangi padang gurun yg berada diluar diri kita, tapi lebih dr pada itu, mampu mencari mata air dlm kekeringan batin kita.

Menjadi bahagia adalah mengucap syukur setiap pagi atas mukjizat kehidupan.

Menjadi bahagia bkn merasa takut atas perasaan kita. Melainkan bagaimana membawa diri kita. Utk menanggungnya dgn berani ketika diri kita ditolak.

Utk memiliki rasa mantab ketika dikritik, meskipun kritik itu tidak adil.

Dgn mencium anak2, merawat orang tua, menciptakan saat2 indah bersama sahabat2, meskipun mereka pernah menyakiti kita.

Menjadi bahagia berarti membiarkan hidup anak yg bebas, bahagia dan sederhana yg ada dlm diri kita; memiliki kedewasaan utk mengaku "Saya Salah", & memiliki keberanian utk berkata "Maafkan Saya"...

Memiliki kepekaan utk mengutarakan "Aku membutuhkan kamu" ; memiliki kemampuan utk berkata "Aku....

Dgn demikian hidupmu menjadi sebuah taman yg penuh dengan kesempatan utk menjadi bahagia.

Di musim semi-mu, jadilah pecinta keriangan. Di musim dingin-mu, jadilah seorang sahabat kebijaksanaan.

Dan ketika engkau melakukan kesalahan, mulailah lagi dari awal. Dgn demikian engkau akan lebih bersemangat dlm menjalankan kehidupan.

Dan engkau akan mengerti bhw kebahagiaan bkn berarti memiliki kehidupan yg sempurna, melainkan menggunakan airmata utk menyirami toleransi, menggunakan kehilangan utk lebih memantabkan kesabaran, kegagalan utk mengukir ketenangan hati, penderitaan utk dijadikan landasaan kenikmatan, kesulitan utk membuka jendela kecerdasan.

Jgn menyerah... Jgn berhenti mengasihi orang2 yg engkau cintai..... Jgn menyerah utk menjadi bahagia karena kehidupan adalah sebuah pertunjukan yg menakjubkan.

Dan engkau adalah seorang manusia yg luarbiasa!"

- Paus Fransiskus - 

30 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old

1. Not traveling when you had the chance.
Think we all have had this once in our life, thinking ‘I should have gone
there or there’. Well as long as you live and able to travel, please do
travel. Trust me it becomes a lot harder the older you get. If you think
of excuses now, later you will have a family and need to pay the way for
three-plus people instead just for yourself.

2. Not learning another language.
How many languages do you speak? There’s no excuse not to learn a new
language, and you are never too old for this. You’ll kick yourself when
you realize you took three years of language in high school and remember
none of it.

3. Staying in yes those bad relationship(s).
How many of us seen this happen? No one who ever gets out of a bad relationship looks back without wishing they made the move sooner.

4. Not using any sunscreen or enough sunscreen.
Wrinkles, moles, and skin cancer can largely be avoided if you protect yourself. Actually, best anti-aging treatment is to use everyday sunscreen, even if it’s winter.

5. Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians.
“Nah, dude, I’ll catch Nirvana next time they come through town.” Facepalm. No, stop let artists, or musicians pass you, when you want to see them.

6. Being scared to do things.
Looking back you’ll think, What was I so afraid of?

7. Failing to make physical fitness a priority.
Too many of us spend the physical peak of our lives on the couch. When you hit 40, 50, 60, and beyond, you’ll dream of what you could have done.

8. Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.
Few things are as sad as an old person saying, “Well, it just wasn’t done back then.”

9. Not quitting a terrible job.
Look, you gotta pay the bills. But if you don’t make a plan to improve your situation, you might wake up one day having spent 40 years in hell. Yep we have written a lot articles about this one.

10. Not trying harder in school.
It’s not just that your grades play a role in determining where you end up in life. Eventually you’ll realize how neat it was to get to spend all day learning, and wish you’d paid more attention.

11. Not realizing how beautiful you were.
This part is the biggest part if you spend your time thinking you’re not beautiful, you will just regret it.Too many of us spend our youth unhappy with the way we look, but the reality is, that’s when we’re our most beautiful.

12. Being afraid to say “I love you.”
What can we lose? By telling someone we love them? Try to learn saying it more often.
When you’re old, you won’t care if your love wasn’t returned — only that you made it known how you felt.

13. Not listening to your parents’ advice.
Our parents have the best experiences, so every advice should be thought of. You don’t want to hear it when you’re young, but the infuriating truth is that most of what your parents say about life is true.

14. Spending your youth self-absorbed.
You’ll be embarrassed about it, frankly.

15. Caring too much about what other people think.
Why live life limited just because you are afraid of what other people will think?
In 20 years you won’t give a darn about any of those people you once worried so much about.

16. Supporting others’ dreams over your own.
Don’t forget about yourself. Supporting others is a beautiful thing, but not when it means you never get to shine.

17. Not moving on fast enough.
Enjoy life, when going through hard life try to focus on little things that makes you happy. Try to move on fast enough! Old people look back at the long periods spent picking themselves off the ground as nothing but wasted time.

18. Holding grudges, especially with those you love.
What’s the point of re-living the anger over and over?

19. Not standing up for yourself.
Old people don’t take sh*t from anyone. Neither should you.

20. Not volunteering enough.
OK, so you probably won’t regret not volunteering Hunger Games style, but nearing the end of one’s life without having helped to make the world a better place is a great source of sadness for many.

21. Neglecting your teeth.
Neglecting your teeth. What more can we say about it?
Brush. Floss. Get regular checkups. It will all seem so maddeningly easy when you have dentures.

22. Missing the chance to ask your grandparents questions before they die.
If you still see your grandparents, please appreciate it. Most of us realize too late what an awesome resource grandparents are. They can explain everything you’ll ever wonder about where you came from, but only if you ask them in time.

23. Working too much.
No one looks back from their deathbed and wishes they spent more time at the office, but they do wish they spent more time with family, friends, and hobbies.

24. Not learning how to cook one awesome meal.
Hello, what’s life without good food? Knowing one drool-worthy meal will make all those dinner parties and celebrations that much more special.

25. Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment.
For instant, stop taking to many pictures or even selfies at a moment. Try to enjoy and appreciate the moment. Young people are constantly on the go, but stopping to take it all in now and again is a good thing.

26. Failing to finish what you start.
Failing to finish what you start.
“I had big dreams of becoming a nurse. I even signed up for the classes, but then…”

27. Never mastering one awesome party trick.
You will go to hundreds, if not thousands, of parties in your life. Wouldn’t it be cool to be the life of them all?

28. Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.
Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.
Don’t let them tell you, “We don’t do that.”

29. Refusing to let friendships run their course.
People grow apart. Clinging to what was, instead of acknowledging that things have changed, can be a source of ongoing agitation and sadness.

30. Not playing with your kids enough.
When you’re old, you’ll realize your kid went from wanting to play with
you to wanting you out of their room in the blink of an eye.